The transition from 'I' to 'We'

I am never the one to ponder about the what ifs and had nots bordering around the mushy romance talks which girls in general have a natural affinity for and my better half in particular!! Somehow all the effort that would go in thinking such thoughts in the first place has always managed to elicit a perfect yawn from me (the cause of many instances wherein I had to pacify my wife by actually showing interest. Feigning it just won't suffice!)

Nevertheless in the short span that I have been married (read "we have been married") I have realized that there are certain things that need to be thought about... Not that I am being coaxed into writing this but it took a few instances not too very pleasant but necessary ones to firmly entrench in my thick skull a thing or two about caring not just for me but about us!

I always felt that I was on top of how to make my partner comfortable in the new environ. However I did not realize that what I was doing was not evident enough for my partner. I always thought that the transition would not be a big challenge (not that it is now) but in doing so I somewhat undermined its importance. What I missed out and if you have been reading this paragraph closely you would have found out that I was too engrossed with "I, me mine". And in doing so I always forgot the "We, us, ours". As is rightly said life is a summation of small moments that make you feel warm and loved from the inside. I think the key to a long healthy relationship is to always realize the importance of these small moments that make life worth sharing.

Thankfully we were frank enough to discuss our problems and eventually I realized that somebody just does not become family by taking the surname or staying in the same house. One becomes family when you treat one like family and share not just your surname but your life in complete and utmost trust. The new journey that commences with marriage is not only for me but also for my better half and hers is way more difficult and arduous than mine. It feels sad that I realized it the hard way, but I am happy that atleast it was pointed out at the outset. Frankly speaking this is something that is best demonstrated  by action rather than words, and even though it might sound ridiculously easy while reading trust me it is not that easy to realize that the sweetest person in your life also needs suffucient care which might be overlooked far too often (at least in my case I overlooked this fact initially). Though I am not claiming that I have mended my ways, but I am on the path (I never realized I was such a pain in the you-know-where in sharing what makes my better half feel like family) and hopefully together we will sail through.

(Just a floating thought - I now realize that why is she referred to as the better half..coz indeed she is the one who brings out the best in me)

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  1. VarunSeptember 14, 2011 at 12:07 PM

    Waah Cheetah Waah .. Padh kar hum aur maadu bhi tayyar ho rahein hai !!!

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